Why this post? It is most definitely different all the other posts I have done, in the sense that this is a more “happy and encouraging” article compared to the rest, which supposedly “discourages” others. Reason behind this, is cause I have no intention of writing posts that are biased in one sense of emotion, and because its just been something I’ve been thinking about since my last post.
Human beings believe in the thought of “wants” and “needs”. “Wants” are the objects or goods that makes life comfortable for humans to live. “Needs” are items or ideas that are essential for humans in order to live normally. Friendship is a need in every human’s life. Some claims that they are able to “alienate” themselves and still be able to live a happy life; however, this is inevitably false. Most of the people who think in this orientation end up having many psychological problems (e.g. stress from not having support to cope with everyday life; distress from being lonely). Simply put, friendship must be present in a person’s life if they were to live healthily and happily.
What is true friendship? True friendship is when you are within a pair or group of people, and everyone in this group shares something in common. This may be anything from the same racial background, similar tastes in fashion, or simply, being in the same class. The purpose of friendship is not only to help people find entertainment in times of boredom (e.g. someone to go watch a movie with, or someone to tell jokes to); but in fact, true friendship is simply the presence of a friend when they need you most. In times of despair or fear, true friends will take a stand and protect or support you, no matter the situation. Those who stand by and let you get hurt are not true friends.
So why is friendship like a snake? Well, this can be discussed by first discussing how a snake works. There are three many sections: the head, body and tail. The snake’s body is designed to be in a state of irreducible complexity (this means that, if one section of the whole figure is missing or malfunctioning, the figure would not function). Similarly, as snakes do not have legs of any type, for them to not have a head, body or tail, it is impossible for them to make any movement at all, despite its efforts. Hence, when there are missing participants within a group causes the full group to have difficult to act “normal”. Of course this only occurs when people are within a group for a long period of time, and suddenly lose one or two members.
Every individual within 2 to a company of friends all have a distinct job, the significance of each person is incomparable by other members of the same pack. The sections are:
- The “head”, or the leader of the faction of people, is the one who makes the decisions. It is practically impossible for the rest of the group to do anything without a leading figure, they would not know what to do. This causes the faction and ‘snake’ to be able to move. The only problem of this is that the leader may become too arrogant and a ‘dictator’ when in charge too much.
- The “tail”, or the supporter of the group, is the one who supports each member of the assembly. This supporter is the more “sensitive” member. They exist in the group to be the one who helps push everyone else forward; they have the knowledge about every single member separately and their needs. They are also the one who reminds the leader to not be too arrogant and become a ‘dictator’.
- The “body”, or the “rest” of the members may not sound important, but are the ‘life of the party’. Without the existence of these members, there will be no leader and no supporter. The centre of the body, the people who make a difference, are none other than this sub-group of the faction.
Therefore, for those who believe that they do not have a place and that they do not matter in their group, they are sadly wrong.
